Agony of common 'man'

Over the years I've been tired and disappointed at the way people look at the difference between the two genders in our country. It surprises me as well, to find that so many different kinds of people get affected by it in so many ways in various regions. While in Kolkata, we find the females getting profuse respect from the commoners, in most areas in India, prominently in Uttar Pradesh and Bihar, they find it hugely risky to plod through the places alone, especially when in their prime. Which means that the so-called fairer sex pity themselves and develop a strong dislike and hate for the 'men', and rightly so. However, in many cases this hate is developed right from childhood. The small girls get brainwashed in many ways, consciously and subconsciously, to the extent that they believe beyond doubt that the man has been born to inflict miseries on the woman. And the boy kids are always made to feel guilty, by this portrayal, for no reason at all.

There is a very strong reason to feel discontented and the need to express the right amount of wrath, but not at the cost of others. Now the whole community of man is looked down upon by them: in railway stations, in buses, in offices-in fact in all the major public places you will always find some man at the receiving end. Even if a woman's pointed heels are on your toes, you have no right to shout- the woman might complain. Whenever there is an accident involving a man and a woman, the woman is almost always spared.

I recently read a friendly sms on my pal's mobile phone, and found it quite interesting. It lamented about the agony of today's man, what with all the reservations for women to make them have a higher position in society. Even during enquiry about admissions in various colleges, I found that there is a substancially higher ratio of girls scoring more than 95% than boys, and yet not only do they get rebate in the cut-offs, they also have the choice of studying in additional brilliant women's colleges, although the number of male students is higher. I myself feel very sorry for this supposedly 'weaker' gender which has allegedly been suppressed from early civilisation in many parts of the world, people who are actually indulged in the wrong acts have nothing to fear and are not caught, but it is people like us who are the unfortunate victims. I ask, are the females taking revenge for what has happened to their community over centuries now and is happening to them due to some morons, on the commoners? A time will come when the silent sufferers will protest.

But, as we all know, there are loads of public places where the woman is actually made to suffer. I find that the awareness which is so necessary to stop this menace is actually harming us commoners this way.

We need to be mature enough to understand that both the genders are a single community, and both are necessary for the growth of the society, soul, the world and of course for each other. The difference in gender is nothing if one goes beyond the primitive arguments. Why don't people understand this?

I strongly condemn the acts of shame and disgrace by the man of the yesteryears as well as the present. But please spare the 'common' man.